WEEK FIVE - The Defier Procrastinator

​The Defier Procrastinators can be passive-aggressive. They say and do things we want to hear. But they don’t do what they say. “I could do it, but why should I? They do not understand the importance of doing the task. They blame everyone else for not completing the task. I can honestly say I am not a defier. But I have known a few.
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They can have the best intentions, but they start late if at all or slow to start. Often find themselves in a bind or jam for not completing the task.

Defier Procrastinators are always on alert to avoid, resist, or fight against doing anything someone else seems to be compelled them to do. They appear cooperative and avoid expressing feelings directly and instead convey them by indirectly procrastinating. They resent authority and use procrastination as a way to challenge that authority.

Great advice here to stop being a Defier, stop concerning what others might be doing to you, and instead see what you are doing to yourself. Try to change how you think. Try to cultivate a more productive, more satisfying inner life to keep them focusing so intently and self-destructively on other people. Please try to stop thinking of what’s in for them and what’s in for me. Try to visualize you doing an activity. How did you feel after completing it? Did you feel great, more energy, less nagged, more relaxed. What did you think? I get a little endorphin rush when I have finished a task that I did not want to do; I am amazed at how I made it harder (in my mind) than it was. I tell myself. Good for me!

Oh, don’t forget to pay attention to your tone of voice. Are you confrontational? Listen to your voice. Just the slightest change in tone can change the meaning of the words. Are you snide? Don’t use your words as a secret weapon. Be genuine and real.