Sorry folks, I have not been blogging lately. I am not sure if anyone is reading them. Blogging is way out of my comfort zone because of my dyslexia. Writing is difficult, getting my point across, having things sound good in the correct order. I have been using Grammarly. That has been a big help. Try it if you need to improve your grammar.
Writing is scary to me. For others, writing is easy, a skill they mastered years ago. For me, organizing is a skill I have learned.
I am trying to point out not everyone can write, and not everyone can organize. Feeling over being overwhelmed can block progress. For me, what to write about in my blog, what will grab your attention? For those wanting to organize, you could be overwhelmed by not knowing where to start, or maybe not having enough time. The story below is how I have been tackling things this summer and will continue in fall.
Source: Mindfulness Ireland
My grandmother once gave me a tip:
In difficult times, you move forward in small steps.
Do what you have to do, but little by little.
Don't think about the future, or what may happen tomorrow.
Wash the dishes.
Remove the dust.
Write a letter.
Make a soup.
You are advancing step by step.
Take a step and stop.
Rest a little.
Take another step.
You won't notice, but your steps will grow more and more.
And the time will come when you can think about the future without crying.
- Elena Mikhalkova
(Image of Tasha Tudor, American Illustrator 1915-2008)
(Google it. There was a lovely photograph I was not able to bring over.)
During these difficult times, maybe just doing something is better and worrying. With hurricanes, the fires, the unrest in the country, the election, and now the death of a hero in my world Ruth Bader Ginsburg, it is hard for me to move forward at times. But doing the dishes or making my bed, let me see I am moving.
Here I sit in my home office writing. I am doing it. I am trying. Take care.
Procrastination could be the reason you have problems getting things done.
CALL TO ACTION. Do you need a coach to get going on these your projects? Can I help you move forward? I hope so. Remember none of us are perfect and life is challenging to say the least. Contact me if you need some help or advice. Maybe 2020 can be the year you make some real progress. Many of us stuck at home are already doing so much. But maybe some of us are just sitting around and would love to tackle some of these bigger jobs.
Contact me at Karen@organizingworks.net. Tell me how I can help. Maybe we can set up time to talk and get you moving forward. Summer has just begun and if you are staying home and want to tackle a big job. This could be a perfect time.
The Overdoer Procrastinator- Do you OVERDO??
I have many Moms who fit this category. They take on the PTA, and coaching little league, and teachers aid in the classroom, but yet they are working full time, just had a baby, and the in-laws are moving in to help with childcare. Many of these ladies are also perfectionists. Want the cleanness house, best this and best that. You can not sign up for everything. It is impossible to do it all. A perfect example is a movie called “I Don’t Know How She Does It,” starring “Sarah Jessica Parker.”
-Overdoers procrastinators have low self-esteem, which compels them to take on more work than they can handle. Want to be liked by all this work will make them feel competent. But they complain they are working harder and longer hours. They are defined by what they do and not who they are. Giving low priority to their personal or intimate needs and ignore/deny their feelings of disconnect about the way they live.
When I overdo – I tend to feel bad when I have to say NO to someone. For fear of being thought of as “selfish.” In my past job, I always felt singled out because I had no children. My supervisor was always asking me to go in early or to stay late so she could pick up her kids from daycare. After a while, I was covering for anyone that had kids. I finally said NO one day. I feared not being a “team player.” But I just said no. I told my supervisor there was 8 of us. We needed a schedule for this coverage. At first, everyone was upset. But when the tracking of overtime on my time-card over six months, it was a legit issue after that everyone stepped up to the plate to cover, not just me.
I love the statement, “I have to make better use of my time and do what is important instead of trying to do everything.” Once you learn this, it is mind-blowing. NO ONE can do it all. To change the pattern, develop better organization skills and time management, learning these skills can make your life easier. What is the priority? What is demand? Figuring this out can help you more done in your day. What needs to get done? What can wait? I had a job where two colleagues would bring me their work time after time last minute. They demanded I drop everything and complete right then. They had no idea what other priorities were on my plate for that day. I had finally had enough, told them to take their work to my boss, and let her decide the priority of the day. Surprise in about week; these last-minute jobs stopped showing up on my desk. I was no longer in fear of not getting it all done. They were being held accountable. To my surprise, I was able to start leaving on time each day. Their lack of planning was not necessarily my priority.
What is that saying, “Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency.” I printed this saying and framed it. It hung outside my cubicle for about five years.
Again, do the visualization exercise on page 218. It helped me get some perspective on ways I can improve.
For the Crisis-Maker Procrastinators, they love to say; I work great under pressure. Or I am only motivated under pressure, or I do my best work when I am under the gun.
I used to think like that. But once I stopped doing that, life got more comfortable. I was not writing the term paper the night before anymore. I broke the tasks up into chunks-doable chunks.
In college, I wanted the paper to be perfect; thus, I did not start writing until the night before, so I could get everything else (in my life-other school work, the laundry, whatever else in my head) and devote one day/night to a whole semester. So silly on my part. Why would I think writing it in one night would be a good thing?
I think it could have been the adrenaline rush. It was calming the chaos. You only live once. We needed a crisis to do the task. But in fact, most of us do not want to write the term paper in the first place. And is we get an "A" on that paper, it fuels our belief doing in one day is a better idea then working an entire semester on it. Procrastination is a tool that helps them to achieve these dramatic goals. That familiar rush adrenaline.
We all suffer from time-wasting tendencies in my world that is watching too much television. Not sure why there is nothing on tv nowadays. I like older tv programs, the reality-tv is ridiculous, and I end up screaming at the tv. I try to watch things that are fun and silly. We have enough stress in our lives. We are trying to relax, but the choices of programs currently available are not relaxing at all.
I guess what I learned in this chapter is going the visualization exercise is critical. It may trigger some of the thought you have on why do I need this project anyway? Can it be done more exciting way? Check this out on page 187.
The Defier Procrastinators can be passive-aggressive. They say and do things we want to hear. But they don’t do what they say. “I could do it, but why should I? They do not understand the importance of doing the task. They blame everyone else for not completing the task. I can honestly say I am not a defier. But I have known a few.